May Hashem help all the single bloggers find their zivug as easily as I found mine...
I think I'm quitting blogging, but I will keep reading your posts with much interests...
Thnak you for having been here along the way...
Sometimes, you pick two clothes and try them on, only to decide, it's not a good match.
Sometimes, when you meet someone, yo can tell very quickly that it's not a good match.
Sometimes you try to set up people only to hear that, despite your intentions, it's not a good match.
Lately, I've been trying to convince my self that I could make a match.
So I tried, only to find out, that blogging and finals, it's not a good match...
So I'll quit blogging for a while (if I can do that) and will be back as soon as all these are over...
Let's say you were dating someone whom you know has/had family issues. What are the things you need to know? What are the things, that if they were not said to you ( whether before or during the dating process) would make you change your mind about the person and break up even though you like him/her before knowing that?
( Hope I'm being clear, but if I'm not, it's understandable. I am not in a clear state of mind these days. Blame college, finals, family, and last but not least, this crazy dating world)
Added on after reading comments and emails:
This is meant to be a vague question
But more importantly, there are reasons people refuse a shidduch that I don't understand. At all.
She wonders what is a deal breaker in a relationship?
I would say there are none for me. Every human being is complex and one trait can be okay in someone and totally off putting in someone else.
That of course excludes things that are universally defined as not normal, such as mental disorders and criminal records
Even Middos are by defintion 'measures' and are to be taken into consideration with the whole picture, and not isolated from a person, a context, an education.
My question goes the other way round. If we have deal breakers, so do guys.
When a guy doesn't agree to date you, or calls off the shidduch, when do you 'accept' his decision? Sometimes they just make excuses, sometimes it's legitimate.
What are the things that you understand and accept, if the guy refuses to date you, or see you again?
When do you take 'no' for an answer?
It's not like we really have a choice when we get dumped, but we have the choice to understand and accept his point of view.
Personally, there a excuses I don't agree with. I mean that I wish I could explain to him how wrong he is for refusing because of that specific point ( not the general situation). And there are reasons given you can't argue with, either because it's legitimate, or so unrationnal, that no reasoning can compete.
I wanna read what you have to say before coming up with my own list.So, dear reader?
What are the things that you understand and accept, if the guy refuses to date you or see you again?
When do you take 'no' for and answer?